On Finding Your Passion, and the Power of Purpose

Below is an article I read in my newsletter at Ernst & Young. It’s a very powerful article about finding your passion, and then pursuing it if at all possible.  The author, Bob Patton, has come to the realization that work-life balance is bogus and purpose is powerful.

We all need purpose, but how much more meaningful life would be if we could pursue what we feel passionate about, and make a living at it.

Work-Life Balance is Bogus!

I have been married for 32 years to an amazing woman who is way smarter than I am. I am best friends with my 25-year-old son and my 22-year-old daughter. And I have had an incredibly challenging and rewarding career!

I have the privilege of speaking to many groups, including students on college campuses, young professionals just beginning their careers and experienced executives. It is interesting how often I get asked the question, “How do you do it?”

I always enjoy sharing my philosophy that balance is bogus and purpose is powerful.

Balance is bogus
The definition of work-life balance and how you obtain it has been debated for many, many years. I have read numerous articles and have walked away as confused on the subject as when I began. I have watched friends choose a “9 to 5” job in order to demonstrate their commitment to work-life balance only to realize that they were miserable in their jobs and miserable at home. I saw other friends who prioritized their careers over all else only to wake up one day and see not only that they had lost their families, but they had also led an empty and unfulfilling life. To no avail, I continued my search to find the person who had successfully achieved perfect work-life balance.

Then one day I realized I was seeking an answer to the wrong question. What I really wanted was harmony across all of the many dimensions of my life. That is when I came to the realization that balance is bogus and purpose is powerful!

Purpose is powerful
Walt Disney was working for a newspaper when he discovered he had a passion for entertainment. John Grisham was working as an attorney when he discovered he had a passion for writing. Andrea Bocelli was also working as an attorney when he discovered he had a passion for singing. We were all born with unique gifts. Life is not about achieving some perfect balance, but rather it is about discovering the peace that comes from aligning your gifts to your purpose, something you feel you were put on this earth to do. Countless times in my life I have thought long and hard about doing something different. Work is difficult. Travel is tough. Many of my friends and family have judged me for the path I have chosen. But in every one of those dark days after much soul searching, I kept coming back to the fact that I love what I do and I feel gifted in it.

If you want to experience the power of purpose even in those dark days and tough times, you must:

  1. Determine your calling!
    Are you utilizing your unique skills to do what you feel you are here to do? I have gone through various skills inventories and personality profiles. I did every exercise in What Color Is Your Parachute? I came away from all my efforts with a really good understanding of why I work in the field that I do and what my unique skills are. If you’re currently stuck, consider taking one personal skills inventory and one personality profile to help you determine your calling!
  2. Seek confirmation!
    I sat down with those that were closest to me and walked them through my “executive summary.” I shared with them why I wanted to do what I wanted to do. I shared with them how I felt my skills and strengths best aligned with the career I had chosen. And I asked them for their input. I asked them to confirm my direction or to call out any biases that they saw in my conclusions. I then shared that, with their support, I was going “ALL IN!” I was going to pursue my passions and execute my purpose with a clear conscience and a strong conviction. After you determine your calling, seek confirmation with someone you trust who can give you sincere, honest feedback and help you grow!
  3. Be courageous!
    Life is all about choices, many of them difficult choices. I used to worry about what others thought. My pastor always said, “It is not who I think I am, it is not who you think I am, it is who I think you think I am.” The opinions of others used to significantly influence the choices I made. But once I understood my calling and I confirmed it with the people that I really cared about, then I stopped letting the opinions of those who don’t matter dictate my choices. I have found that when pursuing purpose it takes courageous steps to stay the course. It isn’t the lack of support from a company, a team or a boss that makes these decisions challenging; most often it is the lack of courage fueled by a deep conviction that results in a “trapped” feeling. If you can determine your calling and seek confirmation, I encourage you to be bold in your purposeful choices!
  4. Be prepared to compromise!
    The choices you make will reflect your priorities and often will require you to put the interest of others ahead of your own. At times I would work late, miss dinner or be away on a trip. But I knew and my loved ones knew I was doing what I needed to do. Other times, I would pack up and walk out while others were heads down; I knew I needed to be somewhere else with someone else. Yes, I missed golf outings and teacher conferences to attend to business. But I also missed many business meetings to attend to personal priorities. The key is I felt confident in each decision. These decisions are made situation by situation, not with rigid “work-life balance rules” of what time you stop working each day or when you can travel. If you let your inner conviction guide you, you will make the right decision every time!

Go “All in!”
I’ve had the amazing privilege of enjoying the fruits of a successful life across the many dimensions of purpose, family, career, hobbies, passions, etc., all sustained by the agreement and support of those I care most about. With their love and encouragement I have been able to go “all in” in all areas of my life. Finding purpose has been a journey of self-reflection, tough decisions and compromise.

I implore you to be courageous and take your journey. Utilize the steps I laid out above and find out for yourself that balance is bogus and that purpose is powerful!

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About the author: Bob Patton is the EY Americas Vice Chair of Advisory Services. He has extensive experience working with Fortune 500 companies in the consumer products, utilities and high-tech industries, as well as experience working with key public sector organizations. In 2011, Bob was recognized by Consulting Magazine as one of its Top 25 consultants honored in the category of Excellence in Leadership. In addition to his LinkedIn profile, you can also

Ten Ways to Tighten Your Writing & Hook the Reader

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When I used to edit for a living, I earned the moniker The Death Star because I can be a tad ruthless with prose. Today I hope to teach you guys to be a bit ruthless as well. Before we get started, I do have a quick favor to ask. Some of you may know that I practice Brazilian Jiu Jitsu so I’ve taken on our dojo’s blog to see if we can try out new and fun content and am using the moniker Dojo Diva.

I posted about how hard it is to begin and the fears that can ever keep us from starting. The way others try to stop us from doing anything remarkable. I’d love to hear your thoughts and stories, so I hope you will stop by and get the discussion going.

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MEMBERS REVIEW

K. L. Romo:

I had no idea this had gone on.

Originally posted on Scribe:

THE TRAIN TO CRYSTAL CITY

By Jan Jarboe Russell

Published in 2015 by Scribner.

Train to Crystal City

Reviewed by Ron Hunka.

The regrettable history of the WWII Crystal City Internment Camp in South Texas has been addressed before in commendable books such as Nazis and Good Neighbors by Max Paul Friedman, but not to the degree of compassionate, richly- researched detail that Ms. Jarboe Russell has produced here. At times, this book is so intriguing that it reads more like a novel than a history.

The book largely follows the real-life stories of two young girls in different families, one Japanese, Sumi Utsushigawa, and the other German, Ingrid Eiserloh. After Pearl Harbor, the fathers of both families were arrested on shallow pretexts and jailed for indeterminate sentences. (In the case of the Eiserloh family, their American next door neighbors sold them out by providing false and misleading information to the FBI.)

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Franken-Novel, Perfectionism & The Dark Side of Critique Groups

Originally posted on Kristen Lamb's Blog:

After six years in critique her novel was “perfect.”

Critique groups can be wonderful. They can offer accountability, professionalism, and take our writing to an entirely new level. But, like most, things, critique groups also have a dark side. They can become a crutch that prevents genuine growth. Depending on the problems, critique groups can create bad writing habits and even deform a WIP so badly it will lose any chance at resonating with readers, thus being successful.

The key to avoiding problems is to be educated. Not all critique groups are worth our time. Some critique groups might have limitations that can be mitigated with a simple adjustment in our approach.

Traditional Critique Groups

Many of you have attended a traditional critique group. This is the “read a handful of printed pages or read so many pages aloud” groups. Traditional critique groups have some strengths. First and foremost, they…

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Coming Out

K. L. Romo:

A great flash fiction piece. It captured so much with so few words.

Originally posted on The Drabble:

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He stared up at the house.  A light was on in the kitchen.

“They’ve read it by now,” Molly said.

He only nodded.  The house was quiet.

“Do you want me to go in with you?” she asked.

He blinked and found a word.  “No.”

She squeezed his hand.  “Good luck.”  A moment later, her footsteps faded to silence behind him.

The door opened before he put his hand on the doorknob.  His mother’s eyes were red, but she smiled.

“I’m so glad you’re home,” she said, and hugged him.

It was then that he let himself begin to cry.

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MEMBERS REVIEW

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THE MEMORY PAINTER

by Gwendolyn Womack 

Published in 2015 by Picador.

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Reviewed by K.L. Romo

The Memory Painter

By Gwendolyn Womack

Have you ever looked into a person’s eyes, and felt a shock of familiarity that shouldn’t be there? Have you ever had dreams so realistic that you could swear you’d actually lived them?

In her book The Memory Painter, Gwendolyn Womack explores these odd recognitions and sense of Deja vu that we all experience from time to time.  But on steroids. In this extremely epic tale, Womack weaves the timeless souls of Bryan and Linz into a historical tapestry that spans ten thousand years.

Bryan is a free spirit, now a painter who has incredible talent in painting reality.  Linz is a genetic scientist, studying the brain and how memories are processed.  In one seemingly coincidental moment, the two meet, and immediately know they are somehow connected.  Later…

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SMALL MERCIES – A Novel by Eddie Joyce

Small Mercies Pic I received an advance copy of Eddie Joyce’s debut novel SMALL MERCIES from Viking, as part of a Goodreads give-away. It sounded like the kind of novel I love – heart-wrenching and compelling, forcing the reader to feel the powerful emotions experienced by its characters. SMALL MERCIES is an elegant rendition of one family’s devastation left by the bombing of the Twin Towers.

The Amendola family.

Bobby Amendola was the youngest of three boys. He was the son who followed in his father’s footsteps, another Staten-Islander who fought fires for the city of New York. Unfortunately, Bobby’s unit was one of the first FDNY responders. And also one which never returned.

SMALL MERCIES examines what it’s like for each member of this family to lose one of their own, and how each struggles to continue a life that would never be the same. How can a mother wake up each morning to the realization that her son is gone and will never come back? How can a wife live every day with the surety that the father of her children will be gone forever? How can two brothers even try to be whole when the third musketeer will never return?

Each chapter is written from the point of view of one of the family members. Each poignantly describes what it’s like to lose an integral part of their existence. And yet, even in the midst of their despair, life gives them small reprieves from their sorrow – small stepping stones which serve to slowly help them cope with a world that will never be the same. SMALL MERCIES.

As I read it, I was blown away each time I thought about this being Eddie Joyce’s first novel. Wow! What talent. If you love novels that poignantly depict those who have suffered through a terrible ordeal, but managed to continue, one day at a time, SMALL MERCIES should be on your reading list.

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